Stunted
Young Black Sheep has once more been kicked out of the family home for Using and apparently is rather literally out on the streets.
This means that for safety's sake Rian must give little people The Drug Lecture rather earlier than I intended.
And also that a wonderful, bright and lucky life seems to be completely ruined.
This means that for safety's sake Rian must give little people The Drug Lecture rather earlier than I intended.
And also that a wonderful, bright and lucky life seems to be completely ruined.
posted by La Tulipe | 12:30 PM
9 Comments:
One of the hardest things about being a family (or friend) bystander is watching the ups and downs-- how the ups make you so hopeful, and yet you don't want to be hopeful, and yet you feel guilty for not wanting to be hopeful, and then the downs come no matter how hopeful you felt which always sucks. Emma picked just the right word there.
Does he get another chance?
In Rian's head, or with his parents, or in life?
Well life is up to him, so just with you and his parents. I don't think I'd be able to turn my back.
Sometimes one has to be tough so as not to be a facilitator. No one gets out of these ruts without figuring out that they need to and have to.
A sad thing, but not irreversable. One of my dorm-mates in college was a recovered speed addict, another an ex-alcoholic. The speed addict had ended up institutionalized for a while, the alcoholic realized for herself that it was no way to live her life. Both did well, were serious students, partied less than most, went on and were successful. Stupid things one does in ones youth, one can get over, assuming it doesn't kill you and you get yourself together.
Perhaps living on the street will bring him to his senses, perhaps it won't. I hope he does.
Very sad. And hard, to have to discuss such things with very small ones earlier than you'd have liked to.
(...although, I am still slightly stunned by the fact of there being more than one small one at Rian's abode. But don't mind me.)
Mmm. Rian has not given up on him...to a degree.
I do not think I would have him babysit Aidan again any time in the future. But I would not ban him from any family parties, either.
Rian supposes it is a lessening of trust rather than a giving up on.
I liked him the times I met him. I don't have any words that can help here but I can say that at least.
What I have found is that there isn't so much a "giving up" as a "emotional disentangling." With the person in my life in a similar situation, I have to keep some kind of "distance," because getting carried along on his roller coaster was too draining for me.
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